[nONIE]

I dont believe it is a question of self gratification as much as it is the realization that children and grandchildren lead their own lives just as we did. We did not have grandparents involved in our childrens everyday lives but they did visit often and the children knew they had grandparents that loved them.

I would have never expected my parents to give up doing what they wanted in their senior years to accomadate us. After raising us they deserved their own lives to do and be exactly where they wanted to.

But as you said, everyone looks at this differently.