[asianthree]

So back to topic. If you can buy house have him come for as much he wants. You come in and out as you like staying with family and enjoying the job that you have. If in fact he finds that this is not what he wants either he can always go back to your original home. Or if you find when you visit that you love the place then you can stay. I don't think any of us can tell you if you're going to be happy or not happy. I think the only way that you will know is to come for a lengthy visit. Then again there are some who cannot be without their spouse for long periods of time so this also may be difficult for both of you. We will be apart for 6 to 8 months out of the year. For us that is not a problem since both of us traveled extensively during our lives. You will find the people here are either very positive were very negative. Try not to let some of us influence you one way or the other. See for yourself and then work things out