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Originally Posted by graciegirl
I don't know anyone personally who has wanted to be another gender. I think few have known others who have wanted to be another gender. That is the reason the whole issue is troubling and emotionally charged. I think that not his angst is in question, but why he chose to not do it more privately.
People have instinctive reactions on a lot of levels toward others sexual behavior in public. I think that this is kind of like that.
I know a lot of gay people and I may know a lot of cross dressers, but if I do, I don't know WHO they are. I have known males who act feminine and females who act masculine.
Most of us are comfortable in our own sexuality and our partners, but even our kids may be uncomfortable about knowing or hearing of ours and we may not want to know too much about theirs.
It seems to be instinctive to choose our partner and have sex privately.
I am not making sense, even to me. So I guess I will stop typing.
I do understand that his gender change may be troubling and confusing to a lot of people and it seems to engender a lot more reaction from males.
It is because most of us cannot understand at all personally or from personal relationships what has happened to him and why he has made these choices. We are not bad for being confused or unable to make sense of it.
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I wonder if the fact that you have not ever known someone who wanted to switch genders is because they were afraid to take the step, knowing the social problems it would cause (evidenced by this thread). Just as in the past gays were afraid to come out of the closet for many reasons. As far as you wishing he would do it more privately, Gracie... he doesn't have the luxury of privacy. He is a famous person constantly followed by reporters and photographers, and he does not have the ability to live a private life. If I were in that position, I know I would be outed anyway, so why not use my situation to engender more understanding/education of the public. Bring the topic to the forefront and develop more awareness. That is what gays did.
I think it is a brave thing that he has done. I don't think it is publicity mongering. I cannot imagine making such an abrupt change in my lifestyle and trying to keep it private when my life as a celebrity is already so public. And I applaud him for his bravery, and his son for defending him. Live and let live. How is what he has chosen to do going to hurt anyone?