[redwitch]

Many pools are very cliquish. Your best bet for meeting people at pools is to go to the newer ones. The problem with that is most of those folks want to meet people in their own neighborhood. Another issue at the pools if you're younger is jealousy-- some women don't want to be reminded of what their bodies used to look like.

When I first moved here, everyone waved to each other. Now, not so much. Don't let that stop you. There's still enough of us around who will happily return the wave.

Two easy ways to join in a conversation -- give a sincere compliment, ask a question. I've found this works beautifully at the squares, the pool, restaurants, even some of the more "closed" clubs.

Don't give up. It took me about a year to find folks who would accept me as I am and probably two more years before I really called anyone a friend.