"How about I'll take care of my responsibilities and you take care of your responsibilities and along the way if we do run across some who truly can fend for themselves well then we will give them a hand up?"

If that's what you believe:
Then support programs to allow women to make their own choices, unencumbered by prohibitive legislation.
Don't judge or stand in the way of two people in love to marry if they choose.
Allow people to have their own beliefs, what ever the faith in a god or no god and not allow one faith to dictate the laws for all.

And as far as college loan paybacks....there were jobs when we left college and jobs where you could work for 25+ years with decent pay that increased over the years. Now the 26 plus year olds work multiple low paying jobs. When they do make payments, it is often the minimum on a loan with 6% interest.