Watch what you ask for and be prepared for the results...
I went to my grandparents grave stone to put on the Christmas wreath and remove the fall wreath. A note was attached that had been put in a zip lock bag. The gentleman knew quite a bit about my grandmother and her brother. Both are buried at this plot with my grandfather and grandmothers brothers wife. The gentleman is now in his 90's and I emailed him immediately. Our son actively works on geneology and I knew he would know if the dates and locations were accurate that the gentleman told me. They were. When he responded to my email, he explained his parents were first generation Germans. He decided to have his DNA done and found he had more than German blood. His conclusion is that his mother had an affair with my grandmothers brother and he is Stan's offspring. He is asking for nothing, other than to see pictures of "his father" and any news type articles I might have. We were leaving for Florida when this was happening and I told him in May we could meet.
My theory is, there is no way to know for absolute certainty this gentleman's Stan's son, but to make a man in his 90's have peace that his father was a wonderful, upstanding man, does me no harm. I have a problem labeling him as upstanding if he in fact did have an affair, but that is my personal value. I have pictures to share, articles of Stan's achievements, and many stories my father told me about his Uncle Stan. I will share them with him to make him happy thinking his biological Dad wasn't the man that had abused him as a child.
As you think about having DNA checked, know there are all kinds of possibilities of the results. Having a long lost relative would have never crossed my mind.
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