They turned out better than "OK." Why do you feel sorry for "normal?" You seem to be confused. Gay and gender confused is NOT normal. It is one thing to humor or spoil your children and indulge in their fantasies, but it is another thing to neglect to give them adult guidance.

I feel sorry for you.

And yes, they are "free to be who they are." And they don't pretend to be what they can't be. They are mentally stable. I am glad they are good parents and do not coddle their children to the point of ruining their futures.

Like the old saying goes "you can put lipstick on a pig, but it will still be pork." You can put lipstick on a male, but he will still be a male. You can give him a sex change, but he will still be a male, minus the parts. You can grow hair on a female's face (ie, Hillary) but she is still female. The point is, leave make believe and pretend to Hollywood, because science is not fooled by make believe.

Gay is a behavior, a choice. Gender is a scientific fact, not a choice and not a behavior. You are not helping your children by allowing them to live a fantasy. You are supposed to be the adult and have learned wisdom and reasoning that you pass on to your children.