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Originally Posted by DianeM
Personally, I envy you all for the love that you have for living in TV. My experiences have not been the same and I accept that that's me. It's obvious to me that I am not cut out for communal living. I have dealt with more than my share of nasty people and so, therefore, I have given up. I pretty much keep to myself and that's the smartest move I've made in the last three years. Don't get nasty and tell me to move. Sometimes you just don't have it in you. I applaud all of your happiness and as I said, sometimes I'm almost envious.
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Originally Posted by DianeM
Your rental/owner status is nobody's business. I find rude questions very typical down here. I tried for about 2 1/2 years to fit in. Obviously I'm the square peg in the round hole. Now I just keep to myself with my puppies and go out and do as the mood strikes me on my own.
If I don't let them in, they can't hurt me. I'm probably stuck here till they take me out toes up but so be it. I socialize with friends on the phone and on Facebook. It's pretty much the only way I avoid the nasty people who have lost the filter.
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We have been here for only 3 weeks and, having never visited before, have no opinion about whether some people here are more or less nasty than some people back in our former hometown. I would guess the ratio is probably about the same – maybe less here due to the abundance of sunshine and the fact that time is spent in planning fun activities and not negotiating the subway system or earning a living and more because some may be experiencing daily aches and pains that advancing age brings or the sorrows of widow/widowhood and/or the death of friends.
I have found that strangers seem more willing to help, hold doors open, the clerks in the supermarkets go out of their way to help you find something, offer to bring your packages to your car, etc etc. – atypical of behaviors up North. It also seems that far many more people smile and say good morning than we are accustomed to.
Interestingly, it never occurred to me that there would be anything untoward in asking whether someone is an owner or renter. Thank you for pointing that out since I wouldn’t want inadvertently to be considered rude.
I don’t think my husband and I are attracted to “communal living” either – although I’m not sure exactly what that means. So far it seems we have the option of either socializing with our neighbors or keeping to ourselves – which isn’t so different from where we lived in Brooklyn.
We may also be the “square peg in the round hole” since we don’t play golf or tennis or pickleball and numerous other activities (although we are planning on eventually trying some of these activities on for size LOL).
But putting aside all the usual hype for TV, what attracted me most to The Villages are the OPTIONS afforded to us that we did not have before. Options that we may or may not exercise.
I hope you eventually find your bliss – whether in solitary, among 1 or 2 choice friends, in prayer, in the love and joy that comes from your puppies or even Facebook. Feel free to pm me if you ever feel the need or just want to speak with someone who is not (yet) addicted to Kool-Aid.