[KathieI]

Originally Posted by brightspot01

Kathie
You are looking at it all wrong...
You didn't lose 1/2 of everything....
You gained 1/2 of everything....

I settled for 1/2 and to me that was fair...we had a 50/50 relationship...I didn't want more than that. I believed in what was fair was fair. I'm not the type of person (and wasn't at the time of my divorce) to take another to the cleaners.

Today, at my age, having to be responsible for my own financial well-being and having children, a prenup would be certain if I were to be in the situation of remarrying. However, for young, never married before newlyweds...no.

Bright, didn't see this response till today. Sorry but I'll have to disagree with you. This was my first marriage but I was already into my career path and doing nicely. I've worked extremely hard, sometimes 7 days a week, at least 5 of them were 14 hour days, and totally committed to my job. And, this wasn't a 50/50 marriage but now I am having to give up very hard-earned money, but I'm not looking back, I just wanted freedom and will gladly give up 1/2 as long as I can survive nicely. I think I have been more than fair. I originally wanted a pre-nup but was talked out of it, and also wanted to keep our finances separate, but again, didn't follow my instincts. I guess if I had married someone who was wealthy, I would have totally understood his wanting a prenup agreement.

But, you can believe it, IF there is a next time, and I doubt it, there WILL be a prenup, at this age I can't afford to lose 1/2 again.