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Old 12-03-2017, 05:59 PM
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Originally Posted by fw102807 View Post
Sadly the best place for an Alzheimers patient is in a memory care unit. We went though it with my husband's mother. He was very devoted to her and wanted her to live with us and take care of her.The first time she walked out the door in the middle of winter with only her sweater on he knew this was not going to be possible. Not only do they wander but they also do things like turn on the stove and walk away. Unless you can watch them 24 hours a day they are a hazard to themselves and everyone else. They are also far more combative with family. Memory care nurses are trained to deal with them and once they get settled in they are very happy there because of the structure of daily life. They become very disoriented with any small change in their routine. It is very difficult to place a loved one into a facility, especially in the beginning before they adjust to it and curse at you, but in time they are most safe and happy there.
Agreed as long as someone pays for it. A welfare patient may end up in a facility where the bedrooms may have several beds. I had a friend who had to share his room with nine other patients. Of course since he was so out of it, it did not make any difference to him.

I blame the doctors and the families for pumping them full of meds to keep them alive only to get worse in their quality of lives.