[Mrs. Robinson]

Originally Posted by lauralouwho

My granddaughter is a server and has mentioned to me several times that many dont tip appropriately. By appropriately I mean 18% -20% for good service. I'm aware that money doesn't grow on trees and eating out can be expensive but servers are people too and have bills to pay. Many severs have the job they do because it's flexible and allows them to pursue other opportunities. If you don't value them as people or the job they have chosen, then why do you go out? And what constitutes good or poor service to you?

Tipping has nothing to do with valuing serving staff as people, but it definitely has to do with the job they are doing.
Tipping also has nothing to do with why people go out to eat and I find that question offensive.

A person's tip is a direct reflection of good or poor service.
It has to do not only with service and but the method with which the service is delivered.
Perhaps your granddaughter doesn't know the difference.

I'm sure you love your granddaughter very much, but do you really know what kind of service she gives to her customers?
My guess is no.
You couldn't possibly know -- mainly because of your relationship.