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Old 03-22-2018, 08:17 AM
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I believe your granddaughter may fallen into the same trap that many other young people have found. She has developed an expectation of her own worth that is outside the free market dynamics. While she may have an expectation of an 18-20% tip, either her clientele is not willing to pay it or her job performance does not warrant it, or both. I would advise her to focus on the only two things she can control: her own job performance and where she works. If she is not happy with the money then she can work harder (or smarter) or find another job. Blaming your customers is never a good place to go. If she has started to anticipate that the tip will not meet her own expectations then this may be reflected in her attitude and job performance and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your suggestion that servers may not be valued as people or the job they have chosen is not valued, is the application of a morality argument. I have never bought into those sorts of guilt trips and blame games.

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Originally Posted by lauralouwho View Post
My granddaughter is a server and has mentioned to me several times that many dont tip appropriately. By appropriately I mean 18% -20% for good service. I'm aware that money doesn't grow on trees and eating out can be expensive but servers are people too and have bills to pay. Many severs have the job they do because it's flexible and allows them to pursue other opportunities. If you don't value them as people or the job they have chosen, then why do you go out? And what constitutes good or poor service to you?

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