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Originally Posted by dillywho
Our father had guns and they were NOT locked up. We just knew that we had better not even think of touching them, much less take them out!
We played cops and robbers and cowboys and Indians with cap guns, etc. Sometimes you were the cop, sometimes the robber; sometimes you were the cowboy, sometimes the Indian. Even though I was a girl, PC had not come into being and that meant that I was the cowboy when it was my turn. We didn't have "cowgirls". There were NOT mass shootings then, either. We knew the difference in reality and make-believe. Every movie we saw was not blood and guts in true color, either. The bad guys died; big deal. IT WAS THE MOVIES!
We didn't raise ourselves and we had boundaries that had best not be crossed. We knew what those boundaries were and what the consequence was if we transgressed. It was definitely not "time out to think about it", either. We grew up to be nothing but respectful, polite, compassionate, and disciplined adults. Our psyche and self-esteem were not compromised; quite the opposite. We knew the meaning of the word "NO". I have a picture hanging in my laundry room that I gave my mother. It is of a mother hen and her little chicks. The signage says:
"I'm The Mommy That's Why"
Our parents knew who are friends were (and they were not them), their parents, where we went, what we did. We had a curfew; not a government imposed one, either. It was parent imposed. There was no such thing as "Privacy", whether on the phone or in the room with our friends. Our parents questioned EVERYTHING! I thank God everyday that they were my parents...now. Certainly did not always feel that way then. After I came home for the first time as a adult, I told my mother, "Gosh, it's amazing how smart you were AFTER I left home!"
Maybe parents just need to get back to "old school". No cell phone in every child's possession, VERY limited SUPERVISED internet. We needed to contact our parents from school, we had to use the office phone and it had better be important....not can I go home with so-and-so. IMPORTANT!
I know, times are different but that is no excuse for parents to be their children's friends and not their parents. No wonder so many keep cycling back to the nest after they should be responsible adults! "Bring up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it."..The Bible
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I understand and hear what you're saying...but let's take off the rose-colored glasses for a minute.
If you're a 'baby-boomer,' you were also more likely to be a 'latch-key' kid...because women started working more.
So by your logic...it really all started then?
However, more importantly is the
fact that there have been many cases where children were raised EXACTLY the same, by two parents, under the same rules...YET turn out totally different.
So what is your
theory...to explain that?
Trying to reduce a very complex problem, down to a simplistic soundbite that...
'because kids were raised better in the past, we didn't have these problems'...is to be oblivious to the truth.
And that truth being, that we parents often try to take too much credit, and get too much blame...on how our children turn out.
