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Originally Posted by Susan&Tom
Here we agree also Chels...on the basic point that is. I would not want my daughter to model herself after Hillary just because she ran for Pres. Sarah would be just fine.
Cassie with all due respect your viewpoint is so narrowly focused on just your own experience.
You make equal pay only because of the struggles and demands of those women who came before you. Most women, even today, still do not equal the wages of their male counterpart, but at least now it is possible.
You are lucky to have found a job that values family first. I too have found those jobs in my lifetime, but I have also done the 80 hour a week jobs, while raising my children.
During those times, Tom had to step up his parenting. My opinion, the more a man is allowed to parent the better parent he is. I think women have historically pushed men away from the ugly or tedious parts of parenting by assuming men can't do it as well. Just as men pushed women away from the work world when it came to the management jobs. That is changing.
Your comment about a teen needing her mother's discipline because she can wrap dad around her finger. That must be your story, it is not the story of all women.
If women want equality, we must be equal, to be equal, men must be equal. It doesn't matter who is home with the kids and who has the biggest career. It all just has to get done however, a couple want to divide the responsibilities.
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Susan...while I respect and appreciate what you have said here....you really should not assume that this is MY story.....in fact it is not....just my opinion.
I was a single mom and made it work by fighting and proving my worth....that I would not only have time at home with my family but also equal pay. It was not "luck" that brought me to the job I am in now...it was smart work on my part....
Perhaps Tom was a good parent and did his part...good for him and for you and for your children...
I also will say that while my mother went back to get her masters...while working full time....my father did his part.....they were a team....so this has nothing to do with my upbringing either just in case anyone questions that....but times are a little different now a days....at least in my opinion...I could go on and on with my opinions....not my experience or story....but we will just agree to disagree I guess.....
As for my comment about a daughter needing her mother especially in her teen years....sometimes it is just a womens intuition....I am sure that has no facts to back it up....but a mother knows when her child needs help.....a mother just knows!!!