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Originally Posted by manaboutown
Doesn't make sense to me, either. I missed being a boomer by just four years and that is just how it is. Oh well...It is still a free country, at least in most respects. I have adjusted to taking my senior discounts without shame whenever and wherever I can get them.
BTW, from what I have read in senior communities younger trophy wives are resented and discriminated against by older married women who worry about their husbands, or at least their husbands eyes, wandering. (Senior mate guarding? Mate guarding in humans - Wikipedia.)
"Female mate guarding concentrates on avoiding attractive, fertile females.[7] Research suggests that females are more likely to avoid women that are attractive and exclude them from the group, as these women are interpreted as potential poachers.[11]"
"One way to overcome this issue is to avoid introducing threatening friends to desirable mates. In one study women were shown three pictures of the same female. In one picture the model was dressed conservatively, in the other two she was dressed provocatively, but in the third the model had been photoshopped to have a larger frame. All the women tested rated the thin, provocatively dressed women as the sexiest. Participants were also twice as likely to avoid introducing the model to their partners compared to the conservatively dressed model, who was rated as the least threatening. The authors interpreted these findings as, women who are dressed provocatively are seen as more promiscuous, so therefore are less likely to be introduced to partners due to the possibility of poaching.[17] Not introducing an attractive female to a mate, minimises the likelihood that poaching will occur as it is a form of indirect aggression that minimises contact between a mate and a potential threat.[17]"
Too, the older single women comprising the casserole brigade do not want relatively younger single women around competing for relatively scarce single men. All this and more. "From Sun City to The Villages", by Judith Ann Trolander, pp. 216 - 223. |
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what they say.
But I gotta tellya, all you boomers or beyond or before, and whether you are a man or women -- if you enter into a later in life marriage, you better be smart enough to get a pre-nup.
And I am not talking about just protecting assets for the kids. Make sure you protect your own assets for yourself. Ya know, just in case the rose of romance loses its bloom -- or never really had it in the first place and was merely an agenda.
My mom used to say, "There is no fool like an old fool" when some older man would be taken in. Or some woman who had no idea they had a lot of money, until her husband died and left her wealthy and then -- she blabbed. A lot. Word got out fast and EEK! Out from under a rock crawled a much younger man, a real sleaze. It was a saga to behold. Sad and true.
Being savvy about assets is a survival skill, especially important as we age.
(I remember when I met Mr. Boomer, I thought he had to be rich because he had a Seiko watch and a set of huge Pioneer speakers that he brought home from Okinawa. I was confused though by the old, old, rusted out '64 Plymouth Fury he drove. I was driving a Triumph GT6 in those days. (Uh, oh, maybe he thought I was rich.
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But we truly didn't care about any of that.
We are still happily together -- but I made him finally get rid of those damned huge speakers that were taking up a lot of room in our northern basement. But oh the sweet memories of those days when we used those speakers as end tables in our living room because we could not afford real furniture.)
I know some of you know exactly what I am talking about in my silly little digression above.
Is my age showing? Of course. What's in a name? Did you see mine up there in the corner.
Back to now -- if considering a remarriage later in life, please don't forget that it is quite all right -- in my book anyway -- if a loving couple does not get married, but decides to live happily ever after, unmarried but together, for financial reasons because each one of them has assets that could get all messed up with a piece of paper saying they are legally married.
Ohhhhh, the things I have heard about and seen happen to people marrying later in life -- people who entered in like lambs to the slaughter.
My point is -- no matter what age you are -- keep your assets covered.
Boomer
Did I just jump the topic track. I don't think so. We are talking about aging and all that entails. All.