[justjim]

OP, I understand your wife was in excruciating pain (your words) and when our love ones are in pain we want “action” immediately. It appears that VHS has certain protocols which you did not follow. Who knows, given the same circumstances, we might have done the same as you and attempted to seek help elsewhere. It appears the two month timeline was just enough to send you over the edge so to speak. Sometimes, with good intentions, we make a quick decision at the wrong time. Unreasonable, maybe, but also understandable. Very happy that everything worked out in the long run. Full disclosure - neither my wife or I are currently in the VHS health system.