I think that a person values the effort they put into it. Also there is the concept of learned helplessness, when you do everything for a person they learn that they are helpless themselves. (This applies to government student loans too, I think.) Therefore, I encouraged each child to fight for what they wanted, thus the scholarship. Eldest had five universities bribing her to come. (I was standing in the background ready to help each child .... if needed. Neither needed it. But they were also headstrong and choose their own path.)
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