[njbchbum]

My first thoughts...have you discussed this with your in-laws and what are their feelings...and how prepared are you and your wife to devote more and more time to providing assistance or purchasing assistance?

My Mother chose to live with my Sister and her family and became as dependent as the kids. When she finally became frustrated at what she perceived as a lack of attention from the entire household she opted for a community that took her from independent living to assisted living to nursing care. BUT she still expected my Sister to visit almost daily and to run her on errands for banking and shopping - taking the community bus to grocery shop or a Doctor appt was not her cup of tea! My Sister moved up many rows for when she finally arrives in heaven and she would not have had it any other way. Se rarely regretted having the time she had with her.