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Originally Posted by Rsenholzi
A word of advice- check with them first before you do anything at all. People that age have set ideas and may not want you imposing yours on them. After my mom broke her hip we rented a place here and she refused to come. Her friends and support system were up north and that’s where she wanted to stay! However, if you choose to bring them down , there is a wonderful place in Leesburg near the hospital . We checked out all the others in the area and found this one to be the best. It is like a college campus , with a boat to take them across Lake Harris for lunch’s. There is a bus to take them to stores, churches etc every day. The dining room is like a cruise ship and there is an indoor pool/hot tub on site. In addition, there is a bank, hair dresser, ice cream parlor on site. A dr comes in once a week as well as PT onsite. You buy into independent living with the option of getting back 50% for the heirs ( negotiable prices) . They have different size apts. the person can work their way through independent , assisted and nursing home onsite . They were building an Alzheimer’s unit while we were checking it out . Not sure if it is finished yet. The place is reasonable and is called Lake Port . Short distance from the Villages - gives you space yet is close enough to visit every day if you wanted to
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Congratulations on writing such a nice post, especially the para about where
THEY wanted to live. I think we are inclined to see people of that age as NEEDING our help to make a decision and often the decision is biased towards what is easier for the adult children in the situation.
My parents lived in their home until they passed. My in-laws lived in their home until they passed. All our elderly relatives have remained in their homes until they passed .... except for one who had dementia. None of my relatives had children living close by on whom they could rely, in fact several of the children were working abroad.
If your parents have friends, a community they like and know, and are still ambulatory I think the decision should be theirs. Many of the East Coast Northern States have excellent facilities for their elderly in the way of transportation and much more.