You said that she doesn't get out and socialize with others when she is living alone in an apartment. My mother in law didn't either and it was hard for me, born a social creature, to understand her need for solitude. I think some people are shy and feel much more comfortable outside of groups.
I don't know if we can change someone who is 86 years old or if we should try.
If she had a Villa here or a small modular home on the historic side and she could take care of herself and you could visit her, at least all of you would have their needs fulfilled.
I am sure I do not understand the problem, so forgive me for simplifying it. It used to be that social scientists believed we could and should modify behaviors, but now it is believed that certain personality traits are inborn and some like shyness can't really be changed much.
Last edited by graciegirl; 12-21-2008 at 02:34 PM.
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