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Originally Posted by Velvet
As far as cupping a person’s face goes I was taught that good manners requires one to do what makes the other person comfortable in general. This applies even to children not only to people of different races. If an adult would not like their face to be cupped or pinched, why do they do it to a child?
Good manners is not because of who the other person is, it is because who you are.
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My neighbor gives my cheek a fond pat all the time, I find it endearing. Throughout my entire life I've had people touch my face, pinch my cheeks, given my cheek a fond pat, squeezed my shoulder, pat my back, hug me - I've never found it to be discomforting and thought it was normal and acceptable. I've had no reason to think otherwise.
I come from a family that enjoys physical signs of affection. It's what I was exposed to. My neighborhood friends always hugged when I was a kid. Teachers hugged their students or put a thumb under their student's chin as a way of saying "be proud," or "stand proud," or "I'm proud of you." Or sometimes as a way of saying "look at me when I'm talking to you" - depending on the expression of the teacher's face, heh.
So again - I had no reason to think it was a "racist thing." Turns out, it is.