[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by petiteone View Post
As a liberal, white woman, professional (Attorney and Surgeon), married parent of 2 sons and foster parent of 6 black children, I am aghast at some of the hateful or ignorant opinions/solutions I read on this thread. My sons were teens when we began fostering (northern state) and we were blessed by their lives.

The local police, however, were after these kids from the day we invited them into our homes. (They were not the only black kids in our community)- Questioning them on where they were going, where they were coming from, how did they get those shoes, why are they walking into this person's drive way, why are they standing out in from of the local theater (along with my bio sons), why are you walking with this (white) girl, frisking their pockets?

My hubby and I spend a lot of time at the police station trying to stop this behavior.

Everyone should foster a black child so see what it's like and what these kids are up against.

Thankfully our neighbors treated the kids with respect. It was the greatest education of my life time and we're still close to each of the kids we fostered. An yes, we put them through college....yes, we gave them free stuff. I'm so disappointed in my fellow whites who think they know the failing of everyone but themselves.




Attorney and Surgeon. Wow. Not only is this woman blessed with a high intelligence but also must be extremely diligent. I do not understand how any person would choose to have eight dependent children. I found it all I could do to raise two and do it right and give them the attention and care and support and love that everyone needs to be a strong and independent person. Maybe she bit off more than she could chew if the children were at the police station a lot. I wish they could have had foster parents who could have concentrated on just two of them. I am sure they had serious emotional issues for being separated from their birth parents. I know that is better than being in a foster home. Wait...it is in a foster home.

With the new community policing the social workers will perhaps be able to remedy the difficulties in the birth home and the children will not have to suffer separation anxiety? And with guidance the parents can find jobs that will enable them to keep their children in their home?

Or am I missing something?

No. I was being deliberately sarcastic. These poor kids. Now they have white do-gooders in the mix. I wish for them the love of their natural parents and a home with financial security. They do not need to be rich or even not poor to be happy, just loved and given the attention of the persons who created them and who will always instinctively protect them.

That is how it looks from my desk this morning with my first coffee cooling by my side. How different could race make parenting?