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Originally Posted by graciegirl
The difference in how we, the people of The Villages, handle situations like this is largely geographic. The ones from the East Coast of the U.S. directly speak to the offender, who if he/she is from that part of the world is likely to speak back and likely to say something else that makes the situation no better, and possibly worse. The folks from the middle part of the country do not confront the offender. They either stop going, or move to another pool, because their mothers taught them to hush and not tell other people how to act.
Neither group is really right or wrong. Some people, I will say a lot of people are losing their hearing and come to the pools without their hearers so they aren't offended, the sound is a soft sound to them. Some people enjoy it. Some people have hyperacusis and loud sounds affect them and make them irritable.
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I'd love to see where you learned this amazing information that I'd never heard of before in my life, ever. I think my sainted grandmother might have a pinch on your arm for even suggesting such a thing. She always taught us speak until spoken to. I used to get a lot of pinches on my arm for suggesting otherwise.
My mom taught me, if I'm not willing to address a problem, then I have only myself to blame if I continue to be bothered by it. Running away invites bullies to take advantage of you. They know your weakness and they'll exploit it. We have bullies in the Villages. The guy in the pool was one of those bullies. The guy who turned the radio down was an actual civil human being who listened to our member's concern, and chose to do the right thing by turning the radio down.
Killing people with kindness doesn't always work. sometimes you have to enforce rules. That's why rules exist. It isn't for those who are victims of rule violators to say "oh gee, I'll just go somewhere else, carry on." It's for the rule breaker to stop breaking the rules. And anyone who has a problem with that - THEY are the ones who should go somewhere else. If you don't like the rules of the pool, then build your own pool and make your own rule.