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Originally Posted by LateBoomer
i never suggested otherwise. I think it's important that people are up front about what they want and don't want. It will avoid many problems. for either gender.
I think my only point is that TV is a tough place to be an older single woman given what are likely the demographics here and overwhelmingly couples-oriented sort of place.
so if she only wants companionship, say so. If she's uninterested in sex, say so. If she wants the man to pick up all the tabs, say so. if she expects a man to be financially secure (not sure how that plays into this if you are only seeking companionship), say so up front. most problems are solved. I just think the odds are not that great around here from mere observation. I have run into a lot of widows, but not too many single older men. but there are some out there of course.
again, I think a lot of dating issues are solved if people are honest about themselves, honest about what they want and don't want. that being said, people will misrepresent themselves in dating ads. it's the nature of the game. It's gotta be tough out there. I wouldn't want to be. but at these ages, everyone has baggage. Everyone has a past. just be honest!!
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LateBoomer,
I have been happily married for decades so I do not know if I have any business advising on this one. But, that has never stopped me before. . .
I will give the same advice to our OP here that I gave my daughter and my granddaughter — and a few others along the way. . .
That advice?
Never settle.
I have even given that advice to perfect strangers. . .
For instance:
One snowy evening in Cincinnati, Mr. Boomer and I went out to dinner. The snow kept on.
The restaurant was one of those places that had people at the door, and in this case, it was two young women who opened the double doors and said thank you and bid the customers a nice goodbye.
What they observed was that as I was there waiting, a car pulled up. A wonderful man got out. It was snowing hard. He had an umbrella. He walked to the door. Popped the umbrella up over me. Took my arm to escort me through the heavy snow.
As I said goodbye to the two young women, one of them asked, “How do you get that?”
To which, I smiled (I have been told I have a “knowing smile”) and answered, “Never settle.”
Early Boomer