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Originally Posted by Professor
Kids moved away after completing college to start their own lives. Grandchildren were 1,000 miles away from there...and 1,000 miles away from here, so there is no difference. You can't follow your children around the country hoping they will stay put. They move for job opportunities and other reasons. Making your own life and then visiting often works for us...
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Totally agree with this! Some families are very independent, and move away, some families are very close and remain in the same area for a long time, sort of the American settlers types where some settled in pockets from the same homeland, and others struck out and went West or wherever to start independently.
Children under 10 are totally dependent upon parents and family members, so helping out there can work while parents are at work, etc, but then they want to have their own friends as they become more independent. .
Its a balance of age and independence of family, so there is no one answer, other than for separation, there is FaceTime, winter trips to FL and Disney and summer trips to them, which is why I have a truck and a travel trailer for the summer, both visiting them and visiting the other parts of the country, maybe with them, maybe not. .