For me, (Grandad), visits and FaceTime are pretty adequate. I don't need to be part of their daily lives. It's a trade-off of course. I miss some joy of the nearly daily interaction I'd have if I lived closer, but I'd also be on the hook more often for babysitting and crisis intervention. I'm happy with our distances. We live on a lake in NY State, and get plenty of family time. Being down here is newish, as this is our first full winter here, but it looks as if 3 of the 5 family units will find a way to come visit us here, as well as in the summer on the lake. So I'm very happy, and feel very lucky.
Mrs Grandma, I think, misses the daily interaction more than I do. Taken as a whole, however, I think she'd rather have it the way we have it than be stuck up north all winter, even though she'd be closer to the grandies.
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