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Originally Posted by quietpine
I sense a lot of guilt in these answers so I’ll be honest. We moved and are on the outside of family. Sure we get an occasional visit but it’s expensive for the kids and others and obviously inconvenient. They have jobs and lives back there, something we fostered and encouraged, a sense of place connected to a sense of family. Extended family is the same, in fact we were told “it was your choice to move” by an in-law. We visit, they visit but it’s not the same as being there for grandkids birthdays, sharing wisdom and perspective with your kids and grandkids and enjoying the benefits of extended family time when it’s not a major holiday, wedding or funeral. The kids don’t need us to go to Disney and that in my mind is a really weak trade off. So, we should have downsized in our own area before moving here. Living in TV is like going to Disney, living with family is like going home and home and home. Just one grandparent’s perspective.
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My husband feels the same way you do. Our children can move away too as what happened to my son, but then he moved back. There will be birthdays but we try to see each other as much as we can. It is a big decision to move to another state and leave family. Perhaps if my son was living in Florida, which he was at one time, we would be there already.