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Originally Posted by quietpine
I sense a lot of guilt in these answers so I’ll be honest. We moved and are on the outside of family. Sure we get an occasional visit but it’s expensive for the kids and others and obviously inconvenient. They have jobs and lives back there, something we fostered and encouraged, a sense of place connected to a sense of family. Extended family is the same, in fact we were told “it was your choice to move” by an in-law. We visit, they visit but it’s not the same as being there for grandkids birthdays, sharing wisdom and perspective with your kids and grandkids and enjoying the benefits of extended family time when it’s not a major holiday, wedding or funeral. The kids don’t need us to go to Disney and that in my mind is a really weak trade off. So, we should have downsized in our own area before moving here. Living in TV is like going to Disney, living with family is like going home and home and home. Just one grandparent’s perspective.
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This is a great example of how only you and your husband can make this decision. The decision really isn’t based on your son alone, although you may feel that way. The choice also depends on your quality of life where you currently reside, friendships, healthcare, hobbies, cost of living and full spectrum of ages vs living with the elderly day after day, as an example. If you are Frank and Marie, as someone suggested… I don’t think The Villages wants you either.
Anyone considering leaving family behind has to also remember not to go crawling back to them if or when you become ill or disabled or unable to golf. I’m a little surprised how many familys are lured to visit with Disney tickets, I guess there is no accounting for interests.