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Old 08-21-2022, 07:31 AM
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Third, a living will is not sufficient. You also need a durable healthcare power of attorney. My parents had both, and we needed the second for my dad. Since I held this power, we avoided putting my dad on the machines when they would not have helped him recover, just keep going.

And, finally, tell your children what you want. My parents had a conversation with me, and my mom clipped an Ann Landers column, underlining in red ink what she felt strongly about. This gave me the freedom and the peace of mind to do as they wished.

If you can’t talk about it, write about it. Don’t make your kids make end- of-life decisions without your input. It was hard enough to do knowing what my parents wanted. It would have been excruciating if we had not talked.
All excellent advice, We too have living wills, durable power of attorney and designated health care. Different places have different rules.

It would be nice if there was a national standard available. But there is not, so we have separate for Florida and California.