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Originally Posted by njbchbum
Hmmmmm....sorry that your children are not willing to meet you part way and accept your offer to compromise. I can promise you this...when it comes time for the grandchildren to be heavily invested in school activities, friends, sports and everything else that occupies kid's waking hours - they won't be missing you as you miss them! Grands find it easier to 'cut the cord' than do the grandparents! lol
It is not fair of your children to not support your wishes and dreams. My sisters and I always told our parents "you don't have to leave us anything when you die - spend what you have now and enjoy it - you earned it!'. So, too, have you earned the future you want; and your kids have earned their independence because of all you taught them and already did for them.
Bottom line - do what is best for you...all others will adapt!
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Very well said. At first my wife was a bit reluctant to leave the g kids for very long. But after our lifestyle visit in January she had a new perspective. We're both very fit and active, and we love to be outdoors. Something we can't do here in Indiana in the winter. So it didn't take us long to figure out this was the place for us.
We just bought a home in TV last January and love it there. We both retire in Sept. We plan on snowbirding for 4 years or so (Late Oct to April) unitl the grands get older.
As you said, about the time they hit 12 or so they get very busy with other stuff, and less involved with the grandparents. Eventually we see ourselves there full time.
We'll go back for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Then maybe do an Airbnb for a month or so during the summer.
As some have said here, we consider this our time. And we plan on enjoying every minute.
All that said, there's really no right or wrong way. Everyone has different priorities in life, you just have to balance them.