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Originally Posted by Velvet
Dale Carnegie said the secret of making friends and influencing people is to talk about what the other person wants to hear.
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It seems to me the topic of this thread is directed toward small talk with new people. I guess I have to assume these folks don't want to make friends.
What I try to do (although I'm not always successful) is to listen more. We so often get caught up in conversations where, instead of listening, we are thinking about what we want to say next. Instead try to listen. Then when you hit it off with someone and make a friend, listen more. And while empathizing with their failures/troubles is a good thing, it is more important to celebrate their victories with them. That might just include their grandkids victories.