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Originally Posted by AbbyPye
Since my partner Pat and I settled within The Villages, we have been embracing what this community has to offer from its activities to the people that live here. And although we are ever so pleased to mingle with others that we meet day in and day out, we noticed a common thread when others speak to us that still remains since we first came out here some two year before.
When we meet others that are coupled, many (not all) of these married folks tend to tell us (whenever we ask about or not with the emphasis on the latter) about their adult kids with a deep notion about their grandkids! They mention what their kids and their partners/spouses are involved with, and give that heavy emphasis on their grandkids, either with them having them visit from up north/back east, or heading up north/back east to visit them.
When we first mentioned this issue in this forum some time ago, we thought that hearing about their antics would eventually come to pass. What occurred was the total opposite, especially when a major holiday is coming in the near future! Although we do respect that these couples are indeed proud of these grandkids that are part of their life as well as keeping the family legacy alive and well, this notion of hearing this unsolicited news is getting rather long in the tooth!
Has anyone ever experienced a situation that was explained within this post? That is, does anyone encounter those that are coupled up that constantly dote on their grandkids, even though they may reside a long distance away?
Please let me know so I won’t think that I am just dreaming up this scenario!
Many thanks!
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It may be that your upbringing was not the same as these family centered people's experiences and that can make it annoying to hear their latest family news. A secret envy of another's closeness with their family may also factor into it. And if a person is childless, it can hurt to hear stories of another's joy they experience having children and grandchildren.
Family oriented people have the utmost respect and unconditional love for their families, and it shows. This is one of those signs you can't deny when you find yourself in the presence of a family oriented individual.
When one of the family members accomplishes something (no matter how big or small), they'll be glowing with pride (like that achievement is yours) and love to share their joy & excitement. These families thrive on emotional connection and understanding. They’re fully engaged with their children and grandchildren and are there for the small moments. Children know they can count on a parent or grandparent to notice the little wins, like learning to ride a bicycle or tying shoelaces correctly.
Distance can be hard when family members are separated due to their occupation, retirement, etc. Talking to others about their children or grandchildren's latest achievements or antics help miss them a little bit less. Now with technology advances, families can have video chats as often as they like.
So, that is my take on those who are proud of their family and want to share. If you want any of these people for friends just grin & bear it & try to see it from their point.