I don't see what the OP wrote originally but can gather quite a bit from the comments. I don't know if I have anything of real value to offer you, I wish I did.
I am a caregiver to my husband who requires a high level of care. Medicare does not offer in home services. Medicaid I believe offers some level of assistance but I'm not familiar with how it works and I believe it is very difficult to qualify for assistance.
At one time there was a church in Lady Lake who had volunteers who would assist by sitting with your loved one while the caregiver ran errands but they are no longer doing this. Maybe there are other churches in the area who have people who can help, even if they come in for a couple hours a few days a week? Your loved one's social security could pay for this?
If you or your wife need someone coming in to help with dressing, feeding, toileting, bathing, etc. and are going to end up paying out of pocket I would suggest trying to get someone in during the times you will be needing the most help. Maybe for a few hours in the morning?
Try contacting an elder care attorney. The laws change constantly. Years ago we had a friend who was a caregiver to his wife. His attorney suggested he charge her for his time. This isn't something for everyone but it works for some. I don't remember all the details but it was a few dollars above minimum wage. His attorney told him to document in detail EVERY thing that he did. Dressing, bathing, feeding, house cleaning, laundry, giving medications, contacting doctors, taking his wife to doctors appointments, etc., etc., etc.
I wish you all the best with this.
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