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Originally Posted by Mistymom
I would like to give you a tale of two stories.
My sister moved to TV 16 years ago into a new neighborhood. Their whole street made instant friends and a social club and most were in their early to mid sixties. Of course, my sister and her husband "weeded out" a few people, but overall they have retained their friendships. This has really been helpful having a support group as there were several deaths during COVID.
Now the second story. My husband and myself moved here 3 years ago into an established community between 466a and 44 of residents younger than us. Our community is very active socially, with a golf league and driveway parties throughout the year. We have attempted to join in, but although the people are very nice, we can't seem to break into any the established circles of "friends". We have been able to make friends outside of our neighborhood through meeting people on the golf courses.
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I’m sorry to hear you were not invited into your neighborhood social circles. That is exactly why I checked to see if I fit in with my neighbors before I moved in. If they are in a newer area, that sounds good too. Wherever your tribe is, it’s good. I find people use the word “friends” quite loosely, where I would use the term “acquaintances”. It takes a minimum of 200 hours of people interacting mostly with each other, same interests, same place, etc to make friends according to a Wall Street Journal article, 1000 plus hours to make “best friends” for most people. But you can see people all the time and if your values and interests are different it’s never going to work.
Real estate people aren’t going to comment on your neighbors, “This one is a drunk, that one is a snob” etc. The only things they can say, location of place, number of rooms, type of kitchen counter - like that is going to matter when you need help which you will as we are older.
When you are young the rule of real estate is; “location, location, location”. When you are old it should be; “people, people, people”. Why do you suppose they advertise TV as the “friendliest” home town, instead of the most value of your money, the safest location or …?