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Originally Posted by gatorbill1
You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped
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That is not the issue. The issue is the person doesn’t know there is a problem, denying is the first crossroad, that will never change. Getting qualified help, is the first step to the spouse sanity. I can by experience say the person will never realize there is a problem.
OP have dealt with the same issue with 3 family members. Early on one may take note of memory issues, and if mentioned the person usually becomes unhappy that you have mentioned help may be needed. Sometimes the person becomes angry with your comments, pushing you away from their life. The denial will only become more pronounced.
There are two trials as mentioned in this thread. The spouse needs to contact both to see if a eval can be acquired. Their primary care also needs to be involved. Keep in mind the spouse will take the brunt of any actions, an outside friend such as yourself will be comforting to the spouse, not so much to the person who needs help.