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Originally Posted by sharonl7340
I have to say that you have had no experience with this. Medicaid makes you liquidate all of the assets, including the home and land that have been in your family for 5 generations, and anything else of value, including your great-grandmother's ring. I didn't mind paying our fair share, but why does it not preserve some assets? It takes everything you have (including that cushy 2nd home you have) to get the bare minimum of care. Otherwise, you are forced to care for your loved one at home with around-the-clock care when your loved one cannot speak, chew, move, or have any kind of quality of life.
I get angry when I read these kinds of posts. You have never been there, you don't know the anguish, the agony, the exhaustion. And to say there should be wards with beds with shared bathroom facilities is ludicrous. When my mom was mobile, there was plenty of time there was feces and urine everywhere because she had no control. We cleaned the bathroom 5-6 times per day many weeks.
You people don't know what you are talking about. You are assuming that the loved ones in these situations can walk, talk, feed themselves, and entertain themselves. IT. IS. NOT. TRUE! They reach points where they can not even chew and swallow but still don't qualify for full-time skilled nursing care because you provided TOO well for your spouse to be taken care of. I will get off my rant now, but go visit the nursing homes and follow the CNA around for a day and see if your mind changes.
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I have seen nursing homes and elder care. In our situation, generational assets were sold to family members who wanted to preserve and live in that generational home. The profits held by the owner were then used to pay for long term and memory care. That is the purpose of providing for one's old age.
My statement about wards for patients was meant for achieving care for every senior in this country if we all go on the public dole. And there will never be adequate care because enough caretakers cannot be hired to handle each personal situation. There isn't enough money to make most people do that difficult work.