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Originally Posted by manaboutown
What astonishes me is the apparent lack of social contact for a week or however long they were deceased. Members of my extended family text each other good mornings. If one does not respond we follow up with a phone call or other means.
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Sometimes one just chooses to slow contact with family or the outside world. When my father was diagnosed with kidney failure, there was an in-depth conversation with our nephrologist, myself both parents.
No matter how the physician and myself explained dialysis was the only option, my mother refused his treatment, and my father agreed. I stopped daily, my father was very happy to see me, my mother would say, you don’t need to stop here everyday, he’s fine. She was sole caregiver, refusing any help I sent.
Once alone i again explained how quickly he would deteriorate, hoping he would reevaluate. At home 8 days later he passed, my mother waited an hour before calling me.
On occasion Mom still asks me did she make the correct decision of no dialysis? Would he have lived, longer? What am I going to say, no you didn’t, he could have lived longer? Not going to happen, but even with qualified medical family, some choose to remove themselves from possible interventions