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Originally Posted by Bill14564
I understand the idea here but for me, this misses a point ... if I can golf or drive a car then I wouldn't have a DNR in the first place.
A DNR will not come into play for me until I am so ill and physically incapacitated that I am done. I would be at the point where I felt that resuscitation would not be extending my life but only delaying a desired passing. If I am able to play a round of golf or drive a car then I am not close to being ready for things to come to an end.
My father needed to be resuscitated twice (that I know of) until the doctors were able to adjust his medications and pacemaker correctly. He lives a happy and relatively active life today which would not be the case if he carried that yellow paper.
This doesn't mean I haven't shared my wishes about extraordinary measures with my spouse, there might come a time when a difficult decision has to be made. But I'm not willing to have that decision be made automatically after a lightning strike, an accident in a pool, or a "basic" heart attack.
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One can still have a life and be stage 4 Mets to every organ. Have witnessed this scenario more times than you can count.
Sorry you won’t be the one making that decision, in any of your scenarios. One can be walking to the bathroom with zero issues and drop dead, of MI, dissecting AAA, or number of issues you or your doctor hasn’t figured it out yet. Unless your spouse has medical background, to know when to CPR, or sit and wait for 30-45 minutes. It’s a lot to dump on them. Then again more times than anyone can count that Valid DNR, is being hidden by a family member, because they can’t Let Them Go.
A good example my brother-in-law stage four esophageal Mets to liver kidney and lungs, fought for 2.5 years. DNR from day one of diagnosis.
He was 54, and a musician. Drove to his studio to record with his band. 7 hours played, recorded, tweaked, added mix.
Sitting at the mixer board took a drink of water told the guys that 15 minutes, they could all go get some dinner, and listen to the recording. 5 minutes later slumped face first into the mixer board. So just because you know you are going to die doesn’t mean you stop living.