[Bill14564]

Originally Posted by asianthree

One can still have a life and be stage 4 Mets to every organ. Have witnessed this scenario more times than you can count.

Sorry you won’t be the one making that decision, in any of your scenarios. One can be walking to the bathroom with zero issues and drop dead, of MI, dissecting AAA, or number of issues you or your doctor hasn’t figured it out yet. Unless your spouse has medical background, to know when to CPR, or sit and wait for 30-45 minutes. It’s a lot to dump on them. Then again more times than anyone can count that Valid DNR, is being hidden by a family member, because they can’t Let Them Go.

A good example my brother-in-law stage four esophageal Mets to liver kidney and lungs, fought for 2.5 years. DNR from day one of diagnosis.
He was 54, and a musician. Drove to his studio to record with his band. 7 hours played, recorded, tweaked, added mix.

Sitting at the mixer board took a drink of water told the guys that 15 minutes, they could all go get some dinner, and listen to the recording. 5 minutes later slumped face first into the mixer board. So just because you know you are going to die doesn’t mean you stop living.

Easy for me to take a position now - might have a different opinion if I’m ever in the situation.

At this point , feel like if I can live my life today I can live it tomorrow. If I’m ready to not live it tomorrow it’s because I’m not getting any value from it today. But again, my opinion certainly might be different if I’m actually in the situation.