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Originally Posted by AMB444
My father is in his mid 90's. My older sib sister is "executor of estate". In our generation this was given to the eldest regardless of whether they could handle the task.
When mom passed my sib was granted "executor" but handled it badly. My sister didn't care about family memoribilia, antique family photos, childhood pics of family. My children and myself were left out and my sister kept jewelry for herself and her daughter than sent pic of what was left for me.
She had first access and actually told mom's friends to go into mom's house to take out what they wanted without consulting me. The house was cleaned out and I was sent pics of the few items left.
She gave mom's car away to a "friend" of mom's that only showed up 6 months before when mom had 4 stage cancer diagnosis.
Is there anyway to help when dad passes with a much larger estate. It's hard after all these years that my sister would do this.. please be respectful in your comments. Thank you so much.
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I was the Trustee of my parent's Living Trust. As the Trustee, I followed my parents wishes about distribution of assets and consulted with my siblings about the items they may have wanted. They received a full accounting of how the money was distributed. Since this is a Will, does the Executor Sibling of your Dad's will need to go through the court system. Is this a place where you can contest distribution of goods and funds? An attorney can answer this for you. If your Dad is still legally competent, maybe he can make changes if he understands the situation. It will be ugly, but you have to decide what's best for this situation. Best wishes on a no-win situation.