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Originally Posted by Velvet
Actually, I happen to know that with my friends it is simply empathy, now very well off, there was a time when they served as waitresses etc during college and they still remember how they had to put together their pennies.
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That was then, this is now. Their empathy is, imho, is misplaced.
I spent a lot of time with my maternal grandmother. Her husband died when my mother was a baby. She supported my mom as a waitress in a small diner. Later, I used to take her out for lunch or dinner on a regular basis in the mid 1970's. Even then, she scolded me for the "fortune" I left in tips. She reminded me often that I couldn't save the world or make someone else's choices all better by throwing my hard earned money at them. She was always thankful for any gratuity, but she never expected anything. When she was working, good manners was expected and rewarded with ... good manners in return. Not cash in excess of one's hourly pay.