[Velvet]

I think when it comes to “stuff” it also depends on what you were used to. For example, hubby came from both a wealthy and famous family. His nursery was painted by a “named artist”. Over time, with bad investments, his family lost a lot of money. But hubby never lost his taste for the highest end stuff available. However, to his credit he became a great bargain hunter. And he did it a lot. Which felt, to me, a bit like hoarding, ok expensive stuff, but a lot of it. It made him happy. I learned to live with it. There is nothing better than a happy spouse. I just had my (functional and tidy) area of the house and he had his. I did sometimes wish, for example, that I was not tripping over 8 motorcycles when I went into the backyard but I had my area of beautiful roses, so all was good.