It boils down to this:

Israel: We're willing to live side-by-side. We'll trade land for peace. We've done it before, we'll do it again. But don't shoot at us as we WILL shoot back.

Arabs: Anything from peace (Egypt) to acceptable tolerance (Jordan) to "It is our stated goal to wipe Israel from the face of the map and exterminate all Zionists" (Gaza).

You can talk to the first two. There's no talking with the latter.