Seems to me that it's a really very personal thing!
When I bought just over 5 years ago, I built to my specifications (within allowed limits, of course). I had one week to clear up "issues" with my builder after I closed. On The Day, I had a list of a half dozen minor, mostly cosmetic things. The builder's representative called in workers according to the issue, they descended upon my house like bees and, with one very minor exception, all my issues were resolved before the day was over!
After nearly 44 years in my then-100-year-old house, I was so excited to have everything fresh and new. I never even considered an "old" house, despite the obvious benefits of them (established landscaping, many nice-to-haves already added, etc.).
You must seek out both. Your built-for-you or your spec-built house will probably have virtually no trees around, and you'll be out in the open, like a sitting duck! Your new neighbors will almost certainly be in the same boat as you - wondering who everyone is, came from, etc. There's a certain bond established when the whole street moves in almost at the same time.
Your pre-owned is likely in an established area, with some sizeable trees, long-standing bushes, etc. The neighbors may, however, be a little less inclined to bring you into their circle, especially if they've been there since "Day One." All that means, though, is that you may have to work a little harder!
Wherever you settle, TV will become home, and a home that you won't want to leave ever again!
Good luck!
SWR
