Been a practicing Catholic for a good part of my 63 years, (
and I'll keep practicing til I get it right 
), and have never really thought of Mass as a social activity.
I have belonged to 4 different churches in the past 10 years (
2 north and 2 south) and found each to be a relection of the pastor.
Tried both St. Timothys but settled in on St. Vincent de Pauls due to less crowds, good music, and closer to Bonita. The smaller crowds lend to a warmer setting.
I don't enjoy a church where there is little or no interaction with the pastor. That seems to set a tone.
Best yet was Father Joe in Sarasota, who stood outside of church before and after mass greeting eveyone with a big smile so everyone seemed to be in a good mood there....light homilys added to the comfort.