[bestmickey]

I share your anger and frustrations. My condolences on your loss. How sad it is that the church wasn't there for your cousin in her times of need. I hope a priest associated with the hospice or hospital was there to support her and her son. Many of God's representatives fail him. I expect he's aware. However, I trust God was with your cousin in her final time of need and that he welcomed her with open arms.

As others have noted, I too have many issues with the Catholic Church. I speak directly to God from my home. I don't need a church building or a priest to be my conduit. God hears me and I'm sure he heard directly from your cousin.

While it probably won't do any good, her family may want to write a letter to the local Bishop and copy the Vatican, noting this church's reps and their shortcomings.