I like your attitude and it's always fun to see NYers relax and mellow out in TV.
Was reading the Villages Gourmet Club website last night (
http://thevillagesgourmetclub.home.c...esgourmetclub/ ) and I marvelled again that we have so many excellent and affordable restaurants in and around TV. There are 73 listed as "in" TV, and 195 listed as "near" TV. What more could we ask for???? If food and service stinks at one place, go to a different restaurant, and give them a chance to improve after you clearly tell them your problem.
As a former server, I can tell you the problem is usually NOT with the server who takes all the flak directly from the customers--regardless of who caused the problem. Usually such problems are due to surly kitchen workers, or an incompetent manager who has under-staffed on a busy shift, or employees calling off "sick", etc.....or all of the above.
While some of it can be a server's fault, do not punish them with a poor tip or no tip. They make a minimum wage of $4.23/hour and depend on tips to feed and clothe their kids or pay for college. If a server is obviously doing a bad job or is sloppy/unkempt, I do leave a reduced tip.
Whenever I go to a C.C. to dine in the evening, I always think the workers have an unusually hard job there, with so many big tables and so much noise that it's difficult to hear patrons, etc.