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Take a look at these:
www.fearofflying.fearofflying.com
www.ctrn.com/Fear-of-Flying/
www.fearofflyinghelp.com/
A good many years ago, the travel agency where I worked had a client who was absolutely petrified of flying. He was always a challenge, because he wanted to cruise, but ocean-going cruises don't, as a rule, sail from St. Louis! We found him a local group of fellow "we are scared to fly" folks. Eventually, they worked out their fears and our client became an even better one!
I hope you can overcome your fears. It is a well-known fact that flying is many times safer than driving; perhaps that alone will help you!
Good Luck!
SWR