He may be fearful she would pass away and he wouldn't be there.
Habits of caring for a lifetime for someone simply move on to the next stage of life or place. If he cannot be encouraged to go to the Dr. perhaps the Dr. and the facility would order in house tests for him that can be sent to his Dr.
I'm thinking he is wistful and worried, that she may not be there when he
returned. Even though that is seemingly and unreasonable fear, it becomes
real to two bond together for so many years. Patience and gentleness will
be helpful, maybe the Social Work people could help..."Remember Jim, you will need your strength to take care of Mary and you know she would want you to have your annual check up. Hoping things will work out easily.
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