Tom -
Can't help you with info re: iPad as I don't have one.
I can tell you that a netbook is nothing other than a downsized and somewhat decontented laptop computer..........which is really just a portable computer. So if she doesn't like fooling with a standard computer, laptop or desktop, she probably won't be real fond of a netbook/notebook/laptop. I bought a netbook a couple of years ago and like it for what it is. I like mine but functionally, it's the same as operating any other standard-type computer.
Bill